Violating Anger vs. Liberating Anger

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Violating Anger	Liberating Anger
Has a twist	Is straight
Manipulates the truth	Seeks the relief of honest self-expression
Has a hidden agenda	Wants to discover the truth
Attacks to hurt	Expresses the hurt and anger
Blames and proves "guilt"	Confronts
Is a weapon	Is a tool
Seeks to discredit the other as a person	Seeks to expose
Has no accountability	Demands accountability
Hides behind innocence	Chooses not to hide
Is righteously superior	Is adamant
Assumes another's motives	Never assumes motives
Needs a villain	Rejects villains
Refuses to claim anything	Claims its part
Seeks to punish	Determines consequences for itself
Uses information to make a case against the other	Uses information for clarity/understanding
Fears exposure	Values exposure
Leads to abuse	Leads to intimacy
Alienates and violates	Liberates

Because anger has such force and potential for violence, it needs to be treated with great discipline and respect. Uncontrolled anger is dangerous and we recognize that even if we don't know how to control it. Unaddressed and unexpressed anger is also dangerous, and we tend not to realize that.

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