Hello Jello
© 2000 Michele Toomey, PhD

Sometimes we just want to reach out, have some connection with another and know that we can move outside ourselves with ease. That is not always as simple as it sounds, however. The initial move can feel a little awkward, a little intimidating, or even a little too exposing. Anticipated fear of rebuffs or rejection can rear its head and inhibit us from taking the first step. "Hello Jello" is a recipe just for that occasion.


  • 1 cup of eagerness
  • 2 tablespoons of desire to connect with another
  • An inviting glance
  • 1/2 cup of resolve to stay grounded in myself
  • 2/3 cup of willingness to share with the others I have chosen
  • A dash of warmth and kindness
  • 3 teaspoons of grated courage
  • 1 sincere smile
  • A welcoming hand


Mix the cup of eagerness, 2 tablespoons of desire to connect, and the inviting glance together until everything is completely dissolved. Pour into a pan and cook at medium heat, stirring occasionally. When the mixture begins to sparkle, add in the 1/2 cup of resolve to stay grounded in yourself, and the 2/3 cup of willingness to share with others. Stir briskly and bring to a full boil.

Boil gingerly for 3 minutes then simmer while adding a dash of warmth and kindness, stirring gently but rhythmically. When mixture is smooth and beginning to glow, pour into a round clear glass bowl and sprinkle it with 3 teaspoons of grated courage as you look down into the bowl with a broad sincere smile.

To Serve

Invite the chosen other or others to join you in enjoying a glass dish of golden Hello Jello. As you hand them their dish, hold out your other hand and offer it to them in a welcoming gesture. Enjoy the jello together and let its warm bounce of energy sustain the conversation. Choose another time and place to share this jello, and then repeat as often as it's fun and desired. Your comfort level will increase with each serving.

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